Perhaps blogging when you are depressed is similar to dialing drunk. In both instances you are likely to do a few things: 1) yell profanities at the world, yell about how you’ve been wronged. About how you are the victim. About how things should change to your benefit. 2) You rant inaudibly about everything else, including how inconvenient it is to have lost your balance for a while. In both instances, these attempts are not very useful, and in my experience, met with curious or laughing eyes at your slurred attempts to right those oh so irksome wrongs. But I’m not drunk, and I don’t drink. But I am feeling wronged. I am feeling alone. Because the reality of mental illness is that it’s lonely. Very lonely. Loneliness and wrongedness make for a fiery combination that leave this Bipolar woman spewing splatterings of emotion at all in her path.
Part of the depressions is that I am grappling with my diagnosis. I am grappling with this daily experience of aloneness which I try to articulate in this blog. The sea of emotion I regularly confront with my usually unequipped dinghy, hoping and praying finally to receive a rope of ‘sanity’ to haul me back to the big ship where all are as happy as can be. Because I believe there is another way to live. A way free from these constant flows that discomfort you, calm you, happy you, sad you. My medication helps. It makes sure that the ebbs and flows aren’t THAT violent. On a Richter scale of 10, I’m now mild I think at an approximate 3. But I am tired of being thought of as moody, tired, mad, you name it. I’m tired. Can’t they see that I go through enough on my own? That I feel alone all the time, especially in the early hours of the morning when I am deserted by the restful snores around me.
A person close to me suggested that I don’t have Bipolar. That I am just a creative thinker. That I just feel intensively. Let’s not comment on this particular suggestion other than to say, live in my shoes for a day and let’s see how you do. Let’s see how you like the long dark lonely halls of emotion you have to walk through. The waves of emotion that wash over you. How I wish I pretended these real, gut wrenching feelings. How I wish I could simply unfeel them. Be happy. Be ok.
So for now I choose to close up. To close the inner flesh of me. There is no-one to hold you, craddle you, be your crutches when you can’t walk. Because the reality of mental illness is that there is no-one patient enough in the world to understand that you don’t know how you will feel when you wake up, when someone shouts at you, that flip flap of a sea of emotion. You don’t know. And in my experience they get tired. And they get tired all too quickly, all too soon. So I am a sad lonely 4 M’s Bipolar Mom.